Navigating the turbulent waters of divorce and other messy life situations is never easy, but sometimes a well-chosen gift can help smooth things over. Whether you’re trying to support a friend or keep the peace with an ex, understanding gifting etiquette can be a lifesaver. Let’s dive into some common scenarios and how to handle them with care, humor and sincerity.
When the Time is Up - Divorce Was Not a Surprise
We all have that one friend who saw the end coming from a mile away. Maybe their partner’s idea of quality time was watching paint dry, or perhaps they just grew apart. When a divorce isn’t a surprise, it’s still painful and emotional, so a light-hearted yet supportive gift can do wonders.
SILK + SONDER
$56
A new routine begins with planning and manifesting one’s best life, and this gift set is the perfect partner to do so. Designed to help them turn stress and anxiety into serenity and smiles, it encourages positivity and clarity.
SPOONFUL OF COMFORT
$39.99
Cheer them on with a care package of treats! Whether you send 1 or 2 dozen cookies, they’ll know you’ve got their back, no matter how the cookie crumbles.
URBANSTEMS
$158
Who said friends can’t be romantic too? Brighten their day with a beautiful bouquet as a token of your continuous love and support.
YOGA STRONG
$79.79
Encourage mindfulness and healthy routines with this vibrant yoga mat. Whether they’re a seasoned yogi or just beginning their journey, this mat is the perfect companion to help them find balance and strength during a time of change.
When One of the Couple Is Rooting for the Other Team
This can be a shocker, but in today’s world, it’s more common than you might think. If your friend’s spouse (or your friend) has come out and decided to embrace their true self, it’s important to show your support for everyone involved – especially if there are kids in the mix.
JENNI EARLE
$32
Embracing one’s authentic self is no easy task. This trophy is a testament to their courage, and a celebration of self-discovery, reminding them of their incredible strength and of their bright future ahead.
FURBISH PILLOWS
$104
If cheeriness has been hard to achieve, this cheeky and smiley pillow should do the trick.
ECREAMERY
$69.99
Bring laughter and comfort with a personalized ice cream collection. Pick your flavors, choose your title and upload your desired image(s)…And the Ecreamery team will do the rest.
THE WOOBLES
$30
Show your support with this fun rainbow disco dino friend, Fred! Both the making and final result guarantees to bring therapeutic benefits to everyone involved.
When Infidelity is the Root Cause
When someone strays, emotions run high, and things can get really messy. Supporting a friend through this ordeal requires sensitivity and a bit of humor to lighten the mood. Let them vent and give them a gift that helps with the healing process.
SPOONFUL OF COMFORT
$15
Help lift their spirits and kick away negative self-talk with these handy cards featuring inspiring affirmations and encouraging quotes. With one card for each week, it is the perfect gift that keeps on giving.
PIÑATAGRAMS
$29.99
A unique and playful way to connect with their inner child, this piñata offers an opportunity to release bottled-up emotions and celebrate their newfound freedom. Smashing through barriers has never been so rewarding!
BRYAN ANTHONYS
$48
Remind a loved one of their inner strength, encouraging them to hold it close to their heart as a daily reminder of your unwavering love and support through thick and thin.
When There's a Bitter Custody Battle
Custody battles can be one of the messiest parts of a breakup, leaving everyone involved emotionally drained. Supporting your friend through this time means offering comfort and stability.
BEARABY
$99
Who said teddy bears are just for kids? Made of 100% cotton knit and tension-melting Terraclay™, this weighted stuffed bear offers calm and comfort. Pass it around so the whole family can enjoy sensory-soothing snuggle sessions.
YOHANA
$99
When tension is on high, life’s everyday tasks can suddenly feel more overwhelming than usual. Gifting one or both parents this membership can help give them 8 hours back each month.
FARMSTEADY
$35
A fun, therapeutic and heart-warming activity to do with kids, with the end result guaranteed to leave your mouth watering for more.
AUTSIDE
$450
In times of crisis, what better distraction than bonding over a simple game of cornhole? This gift guarantees an afternoon filled with fun and laughter amidst nature’s beauty.
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When There's Financial Strain
Money issues are a common cause of relationship breakdowns. Supporting a friend through financial strain means offering practical yet thoughtful gifts.
GOLDBELLY
$79.95
In times like these, providing a hearty dinner can mean more to your recipient than words can express. Created by the makers of Oprah’s favorite pie, this delightful pie comes frozen and can be ready in just under two hours by simply popping it in the oven.
PAPIER
$38
Financial strains are no easy fit. Help them get back on track with this handy planner. Meant to encourage healthy planning patterns, this planner will empower your giftee with helpful articles and budget tracking tools.
COMMONS
$50
Financial difficulties can leave anyone feeling drained and overwhelmed. This CBD starter pack is designed to reduce stress, promote better sleep patterns, and enhance recovery. It’s a thoughtful way to help them regain control of their day and start fresh, even in challenging times.
THE CHAI BOX
$57
When financial strain leads to long working hours, this chai gift set is the perfect solution for enhanced focus and energy without the crash. Plus, chai’s antioxidants and anti-inflammatory properties help promote a strong immune system.
General Tips for Gifting in Messy Situations
- Know Your Audience: Understand the recipient’s personality and what they might find comforting or amusing.
- Avoid Taking Sides: Unless it’s absolutely clear who’s in the right, try to remain neutral to avoid further drama.
- Add a Personal Touch: A handwritten note can mean the world and show that you truly care.
- Be Sensitive: Sometimes, a hug and a listening ear are the best gifts you can offer.
In the end, the goal is to show your support and bring a little bit of joy to someone going through a tough time. With the right mix of humor and sincerity, you can help turn a messy situation into a moment of connection and healing. So go ahead, be the friend who knows just what to give when life gets complicated.
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